With Quiet Words I’ll Lead You In….

So it’s really over. As of last Thursday Melissa and I are no longer together. I’m sad about it, but I just wasn’t happy with our relationship and the fact of the matter is I was never going to be happy again with her. It came down to she wasn’t as serious in my mind as I thought she was going to be. She was a lot of talk and little action, while never being able to really be there with me. When I was with her it was great, but when I wasn’t with her it was frustrating because we never seemed to have time with just us or hanging out with some of our friends. There is a lot more to it than that, but this is going to have to suffice as an explanation for now. So, in the end I feel a lot more relieved to not be with her anymore. What’s next? Well I guess I’m just letting the wind take me for now until I feel more comfortable delving into present situations (or grow a pair and man up) or something presents itself clearly to me.

UNO preparation is going well, although very slow cause that’s how I do things.

I have landed on a blue 2003 Honda Civic for my new car and I love it to death so far. It’s just been two weeks but I think I’m madly in love with it, I am probably naming her Eva, because that name makes me really happy inside and so does this car. That’s pretty much all you need to know.

Yes, I still work a lot, but somehow it doesn’t bother me in the slightest (except in the mornings when waking up becomes a chore). I can use every penny in some way or another so the more money the better I guess.

I have started a once or twice weekly personal thoughts journal for my own eyes and mind. I feel like it’s helped get my emotions out a lot and I am really glad I started it, now if only I could find more time for it. Of course it has caused me to consider getting rid of my blogspot because I feel like doing something I actually can post online is much more of a superficial chore than anything. But I guess if anyone actually takes the time to read these I would be really sad to leave them hanging.

My sleep is no better than it was before, but most of that can be attributed to some of the thoughts I have been having the last month or so. Can’t really talk about them here, but they are really intense and are going to really affect me in some way or another once they come to fruition.

Maybe something a little more juicy next time, but that’s all I really have for now.

We are the only ones we are running from,
Alexander

4 months, thought buildup, and sleep deprivation at its finest

I’ve been with the love of my life Melissa for a little over 4 months now, and things are pretty great I think. To hear the kinds of things come from her mouth about how much she loves me gives me a warm feeling inside that makes the world around me melt away. We love each other so much at this point if we were to break up for any reason, one or both of us would be extremely devastated to the point where you would want to watch us closely for fear of what we might do alone. That’s something that has crossed my mind a couple of times, kind of an awkward thing to think about, but it’s true. But this is also good because that means that we could stay together forever if things stayed anywhere near to the way they are now. For me now the biggest struggle is trying to not get too complacent and continue to try and be amazing for her. Of course if I wasn’t trying to save money this would make things a bit easier in that department. But Melissa is great and we are pretty much meant to be together if you ask me so I’m just really happy that I found her at this point.

Elsewhere in life I work a lot and that’s going pretty great, I am appreciated and have actually made some friends since starting there. My time as a cashier is actually really nice and bussing makes pretty good money so it works out nice that I split most of my time doing those two jobs. I just need to keep striving to not fuck up and I think I’ll be alright.

I am saving my money that I don’t use for rent/utilities at my new place towards getting a new car between july 17 and july 31 (both paydays) using my money saved as a down payment and making payment of around $175/month for 60 months (crosses fingers). Of course I need a legit co-signer to get a loan and what not, but hopefully it works out and I can actually get a nice car for myself. I am really excited to get my new car and drive it all the time, yet not have to pay more in gas cause my car is just that bad on gas (yes, I drive a POS right now). Hoping for a 2002 - 2004 Honda Civic with around 50k miles on it, but we will see what happens. I’m doing research and looking hardcore, it should pay off in the long run.

I have serious sleep issues…….really like “wtfomgbbq!!!” bad. One hour minimum before I pass out most nights, with sometimes when two hours isn’t enough, such as this past weekend. I don’t even get it most of the time, but my thoughts don’t end and they just kill me slowly. I really need this looked at cause it’s been hanging around pretty much ever since I’ve been in high school, maybe before.

I love my music, it's pretty much amazing. Just saying.

I really want to start like a personal journal thing for myself that I do at least a little bit on every night. Yeah it’s not possible, but I really would like to do it for my own record keeping. Also there is a lot of stuff that crosses my mind that I forget so that would help a lot. Then there is also some personal thoughts I want to record cause I don’t want to pay the money to see a therapist/need to get off my mind, but definitely can’t post online. I would hope to be able to consolidate journal thoughts into posts online or just take particular write happy days and post them online (that I feel I can post online anyways). Maybe I will start this up tomorrow even………yeah sounds like a good plan.

Good thought recording session, I’ll have to do this more often.

And 1,
Alexander

Endless thoughts about the girl I care about the most

So this Saturday will mark the 2^nd month anniversary of me and Melissa. In some ways it feels more meaningful than the first, yet in others it seems less. Getting to the first month seems more meaningful in a sense that it marks the point where you can say that this is for real, and soon the words “I love you” become commonplace in your days with them. However from a personal mental standpoint I see the second month as more important because it shows a level of comfort with your partner, that you’ve seen almost everything they can throw at you, and from here you don’t get many surprises about them. So essentially to me it means what you see now is pretty much what you are going to get, with change not coming easy. So why am I seeing the second month as a bigger deal than the first? Simple, even after seeing a flaw or two in Melissa I wish weren’t there, I still love her more than anything. So to me, it is truly saying, “Babe, I’m in this for the long haul.”

So, instead of getting into the more explicit ways in which my unending love is apparent, I will instead avoid them in favor of a description of her through my own eyes. One thing that most people don’t know about me is the first thing I notice about a girl is their smile, and for Melissa her smile’s beauty is not found through alignment or brightness, but through the truth of pure happiness when it’s shown. Her smile is also very contagious, the kind that makes her friends follow suit and her enemies angry with jealousy of her noticeable happiness. The next thing that I notice is a particular part of personality, the part that screams out an innocent, sweet girl. She grabs hold of these categories naturally in ways nobody else can, making me happy through them and also for her understanding my thoughts. It is a connection that is unique to our personalities clashing. After those two I consider everything else as it comes at me. I like the silky softness found in Melissa’s hair and running my fingers through it. I love the softness in her face and just touching it. On a colder evening, just grabbing a blanket and cuddling and kissing are the best though. Touching those soft lips with mine in the name of passion is a euphoric state the likes of which I didn’t know existed.

So, to say that I’m in this for the long haul is the ONLY way to say it, because a love so great won’t be stopped before reaching the end destination, which looks like paradise from this distance.

Make it happen,
Alexander

Ignorance is bliss, that's what they say

So tonight one of my biggest influences Angie gave me some pretty negative feedback (all be it very brief and somewhat unexplained) about my relationship so far with Melissa. I’m not entirely sure what was fueling this hate, but I can’t help but be concerned after hearing it. She said that we acted like we had never had a girlfriend/boyfriend before, strictly based on how much we were holding hands. Not only that, she made it seem like there was something horribly wrong with holding hands a lot. Then she went on to say that it was bad that she already has a profile picture of us, that it scares her. She made a quick mention of jumping into things too quickly and how things can go bad. To say that I’m a little upset this conversation only got to last about 90 seconds might be the understatement of the month. I feel very angry, and a little disturbed.

First off, why is it so bad that we are holding hands so much? Secondly, if two kids happen to be falling for each other, even if it is in such a short time, who are you to say that it’s so bad? Also, since when is putting up a profile picture with your new boyfriend making a statement that says, “I’m moving things too fast.” That is what it appears Angie is making her second claim based on.

Its like, shouldn’t you just be happy for me, or at least not come off so mean the first time you talk about my relationship? If she has really been keeping good enough tabs on me, she would realize how the way she just attacked me would not sit well at all. Then on top of it, when she called me back, it was she didn’t even just say what she said.

I don’t know, it’s like I’ve been on an emotional high about things and my best friend just decides to shoot me down. Its like, might as well have called me up and said, “I hate everything about you and your new girlfriend’s relationship. BYE!” Grrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Frustrated,
Alexander

The Note

Melissa,

You wrote me a note and it left me speechless at first, but after having a while think about it, I know what I want to say. I’m falling for you too, and I know it because every time I go to leave you, it becomes harder and harder. I’ve never felt like this with anyone, and most of the time I feel lost with what to do around you. Whenever I am holding you, I feel like I could hold on to you forever. Whenever we kiss, it’s like everything in the world is right, if only then. Your smile is perfectly breathtaking; it always gets me smile right back. Your eyes are calm and kind, I can’t help but get lost in them. Before when I would try and go to sleep, my mind would roam, thinking about anything and everything; now they only think of you.

My biggest fear with you since I started feeling this way is that I’m going to let my emotions get the better of me and move faster than you are ready for. That’s why I have been so cautious to do anything it seems, I know you have been through so much and I want to be the last person to push you. The one thing that would make me happy when I’m around you is for you to either tell me when you are ready to take things up a level, or show me yourself. I have a sad recent past and I kick myself for moving too fast in it, it is the reason I haven’t been the first to tell you how I feel.

It’s not easy for me to open up to anyone, only a couple people have ever had a chance to see it, and it’s still hard to tell them how I feel sometimes. Just know that if you ever need to tell me something like this, if I’m not talking it’s not a bad thing at all, it’s just really hard for me to say how I feel.